Sometimes we find ourselves in a pickle and have no clue why the situation is so nasty. Is it then possible to try to work at resolving the issue? Or does it come across that you are always playing the victim card and putting the onus on the other person? Take time to think things over before you try to resolve a fight. It may or may not be your fault. Work on your words before being in the company of people who are out to get you. Once you have that in order, you will be able to cite your points.